Jim Morrison once said, “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all…. feelings are disturbing.
People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous….Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. “ In our culture, we are afraid to feel feelings that are not happy. We do almost anything to avoid it. What I’ve discovered through counseling work with patients is that some people eat bad feelings away. Some people drink, use drugs, gamble or shop as a way of avoiding feelings. Others just keep themselves very busy, working or even exercising to excess. We spend so much energy trying to keep away from difficult feelings!
We are conditioned to believe that the definition of happiness is freedom from pain or difficulty. We believe that feeling negative or painful feelings will prevent us from being happy, and we should therefore avoid it at all costs.
As a culture, there is an assumption that both being happy and feeling negative or painful feelings cannot exist at the same time. In fact, many people believe that if we allow ourselves to feel what is really inside our minds, that these painful emotions might take over and prevent us from EVER leading a happy life.
The truth is, as Jim Morrison said, our pain is actually meant to wake us up!
In order to lead the lives that we want, it is crucial that we are able to be honest with our feelings. To actually look at the thoughts and feelings that are happening inside our minds, even if it’s hard stuff!
There isn’t a human being alive that doesn’t struggle with some difficult feelings at some point in his or her life. So, it is astounding to me that we are not taught in any formal education we go through, how to actually feel negative and difficult feelings.
The fact is that when we allow ourselves to feel the pain, rather than running away from it, this is the key to the freedom that we all so desperately crave!!
The key to happiness comes down to guts. By that, I mean the willingness to look at your fears and the guts to face them. Right now. Feel them. Be present to them. Those same feelings that you have designed your life in order to avoid. I promise you, what is on the other side of this, is freedom, joy and contentment! JUST DO IT!!